I think that my daughter has THE SHORTEST hair in the history of African American toddler hair. Sometimes I walk through the stores and see these gorgeous little infants with these amazing afros of perfect Black hair and I wonder, “is it me – am I the problem?” However, I don’t really believe that I am, even if I’m behind the curve on managing, caring for and doing her hair. But sometimes it’s discouraging and makes me feel like I am inadequate in being her mother because I just don’t have a three year old with a huge head of hair. My friends and family reassure me that every hair is unique and that it all grows at a different rate and for the most part I know this, but I still feel doubt at times. With that in mind, Gracie’s third birthday just passed and we have a habit of taking our kids to get their pictures made around their birthdays. Since they are 20 days shy of being exactly two years apart, it is a good marker for me as to how much her hair has grown. So today I spent some time today looking at her hair over the past three years in those pictures decorating our hallways and was reassured that I am, in fact, doing alright but still need a lot of help and always will!
Tonight I attempted to pull all of her hair into afro puffs. I haven’t attempted this before because her hair, unless it is straightened with a pressing comb and flat iron, doesn’t seem to be long enough in order to go into the puffs. However, when Gracie was about a year old, I used to do around 16 tiny little puffs all over her head in order to help it grow. So if I can get those tiny puffs to go into a pull, I can do pretty much about anything.
So we sat down, her in her rocking chair, movie turned on and mommy behind, her gigantic tackle box of hair products in hand and I sprayed and combed and pulled and sprayed and pulled and banded and pulled and sprayed for a good hour and I was able to do it! It took 22 puffs, some tinier then others but we did it. Enjoy the pics of Gracie’s first (without straightening) full head ‘do!
The real dilemma now is find 22 matching barrettes to put in her hair for tomorrow!